But had to go take care of mum in Africa. She says I'm so handsome I'm not and wants to see me in person and hear me. But her cell phone seems to be faulty and her old laptop doesn't have a built in camera. She wants me to send money to buy one via her money transfer account. I told her I'm doing a background check.
She keeps on trying. Really appreciated the tip about the Google Search image. It identified a man who said he was Roden Miller actually Jeffrey Miller as a scammer. He said he was a widower with a 14 year old son. He is in the army stationed in Houston Texas but is currently on a peacekeeping mission in Libya but would be returning soon. He friend requested me on FaceBook. DB Dawn Burton Jun 17, I refuse to give my number or email and insist on staying on that site. I also enjoy toying with these scammers with elaborate stories of wealth, success, and loneliness. This keeps them busy from victimizing another.
SA Sarah Anderson Sep 4, ST Suzanne Taylor Oct 19, Met a man, ages similar. He was well-educated and spoke with a beautiful French accent. Scammers are good at making you believe that you are the one. Probably gave out information that I shouldn't have. He got no money. Claire Sep 7, TT Tracy Turner Aug 5, I didn't start asking the right questions until it was too late for me and my money. Please take the time to read this and also take the advice given very seriously on the dating sites. SA Stephen Austin May 17, Warning about using terms of endearment very early on in communication was also helpful.
I'd like to add that scammers often send quite lengthy, detailed messages at first. Phillips Feb 23, Also learned don't tell him you love him not before you meet him in person! JN Jackie No Sep 7, Sadly, I gave too much info and I believe out of three, two are fakes and likely the other guy I liked texts and talks at all hours supposedly when he was overseas? He had my telephone number but I didn't have his!
PD Patricia Dickenson Jan 1, Things that have been said ring true! I just hope other ladies do not get trapped, it is as has been said: DO David Obrien May 18, Some first hand advice about a couple of sites. I have proven it many times. Thankfully, I am smart, no money was exchanged. ML Mili Lee May 5, Saved me from a scammer trying to me a parcel from the U.
After reading this, I told him, "I won't be able to pay". AS Ann Smith Jul 12, I might have continued the relationship; I'm grateful for the advice. FF Felicidad Ferro Aug 24, I now know I stupidly fell for a scammer from the UK. Thanks for your help. I now know what I need to do. TA Toni Alexander Jul 20, I only wish I had done research on this previously because I was scammed. I have spoken to numerous scammers on each dating site I have tried.
MK Missy Kuhn Jul 10, This was very informative. Glad I found it so I can help my friend who I suspected was getting herself into a dating scam. CB Claire Brown Jun 23, I have done a lot of studying about scammers, this was new. PW Pam Walker Jun 27, Just what you said scammers do step by step I see, but I draw the line when they ask for money.
A Anonymous Jun 10, It really helps, now I have an idea how they work on a scam. Thank you very much. I don't think I'll go so far as to check the military database, I'm convinced he is a scammer. If the request for funds is indeed a scam, it may be difficult, if not impossible, to ever recover the money.
Please call Member Services at Welcome to Consumer Reports. You now have access to benefits that can help you choose right, be safe and stay informed. In our online dating survey, 12 percent of people say they were conned. Sharing is Nice Yes, send me a copy of this email. Send We respect your privacy. Oops, we messed up. Their worry is not overstated. Romance scams really can happen to anyone. Have you been hurt by a romance scam? Tell us in the comments below. To recognize and avoid romance scams, follow these tips. First thing is he never told me his mother passed and when he was saying it he appeared to be very sad He asks if I can deposit the money in my bank account then send it to him.
So when he said this "woman" needs some info from me to make the deposit I said ok.
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Im like why does she need all this and he says she need it for the deposit. Im telling him she would not need all that, but he's trying to pressure me to do it and saying I need to trust him. I kept saying a relationship with no trust is no relationship at all. So i started looking up things online and thats how I noticed I was being scammed. From the strong feelings so fast, to the love quotes, just everything they speak of online is what I'm dealing with.
The crazy thing is his profile is real, we video chat and everything. It hurts so bad to know that I have been talking to someone for 4 months developing real true genuine feelings and the whole time he was after my money. I am only 28 and so is he Im so ashamed because he has photos of me and my address. Idk whats to come next??? Yeah, requesting all of that information is definitely a warning sign.
I'm glad to hear that you thought of that right away! Many people don't realize it until later. Check if the pictures you've sent him are published on dating sites and pretend to be a girl looking for their partner in life. Use Internet Reverse Image Search. If you find your photos, please contact the dating department and tell them to delete the fake profile. If you have bad luck this unscrupulous guy could have recorded your video conversation and will use it to scam other but, pretending to be you. Or he will sell the video to other scammers. I got in an video-conversation with a fine woman around 30, living in Ghana.
The funny thing was, that her microphone wasn't functioning. So I asked her via chat to put her hands on her ears. Then "she" complained why I don't trusted her. She never put her hands on her ears. The reason that I asked, was that if it was a real time video, it would been easy for her, to put her hands on her ears.
I'm sure that the scammer was playing a prerecorded video with som woman he have scammed. So be aware when you do a video-conversation with somebody unknown. It could be recorded, and used to scam other people. This is my story: I wasn't looking for a date, but came across the site by chance. I was on for a very short time when I got hit up. First by a guy that said he was a doctor, but sounded more like a moron. Within a week he was calling me 'Babe'. Soon after I was approached by another that was quite good at his craft. Exceptional actually, but there does seem to be pattern.
I'd like to share my findings here, but how can I know that the scammers aren't here looking for tips? I will go so far as to write about an experience I had that left me quite baffled. Hopefully you can shed some light on it. You mentioned that we need to go with our gut feelings.
This is a tip that is becoming more and more true in this day and age in general. The encounter I had was with a man with a picture of a naked chest as his profile picture. He provided no other picture. Most of our correspondence was , 'Hi', 'Hey', 'How you doing? I started chatting with him shortly after I had encountered my first perpetrator I'll call him 'suitor' for the sake of this question.
There was no reason to believe that one had anything to do with the other, but I had this gut feeling that in some way this new guy naked chest was somehow connected. Anyway, 'Naked chest' asked for my number and I ignored the question. Later when my curiosity was heightened, I gave it to him. After more of the same tiresome dialect he suggested that he had been asking me out and wanted to know if we could meet up. I unknowingly missed that clue. We were to meet at the market in his neighborhood. I arrived early and texted him to let me know when he got there, and that I was going to go into one of the other stores.
He texted me when he arrived later than expedited. I came out and waited, but there was no one to be seen. He texted that he had to take a call form his 'boss' and he was terribly sorry. The call would take longer than he intended. I told him I was going to grab a bite to eat, to just let me know when he was available. I finally gave up and told him I was heading home. He said "I'm so sorry". I asked if he saw me.
The next day I didn't hear anything. Again curiosity got the better of me. After a couple of days I said, 'If you'd like to try again, let me know, otherwise just tell me you're not interested and there would be no hard feelings. For the sake of argument, I think it helpful to say, I look exactly as I do in my pictures, so it wasn't a matter of my appearance. My curiosity can't help but wonder if his 'boss' was my 'suitor'. But what would be the purpose, what would the purpose be either way? That's a pretty strange scenario. Just goes to show that it's a good idea to listen to your intuition in these sorts of situations!
I've read that statistics show that one in 10 people on a dating sight is a scam. My experience , however, has been more like only one out of 10 is the real deal.
I started chatting with him shortly after I had encountered my second perpetrator I'll call him 'suitor' for the sake of this question. He said "no'" The next day I didn't hear anything. That is pretty strange, you're right. Definitely seem suspicious, though. Glad to hear you're being careful! I am not sure- but I believe this guy is trying to set up trust.
He has sent me about 15 pictures- including one of his daughter- nothing came up in various searches- an architect who first had to travel to Paris- who sent me pictures of he posing w the landmarks I asked but he could have these in his arsenal just in case- I asked him to send me a picture of him lying in bed- he did-there is someone by his name listed in his town in the white pages- his daughters name when searched has this guy's name as a relative. His English reflects his education very well spoken- but is is Acraa Ghana surveying the land as an architecture before the hotel is built- dropped his phone- does not have money on him for his iphone6- I told him to buy a throw away prepaid if it was important to speak w me.
He asked again- I refused- he apologized that he bothered me and continued to talk to me. His communication is sparse now saying the interconnect is bad in Ghana. I have questioned him about the weather- he is on the mark and he called me both from Paris and Acraa- both with the correct country code- I am cautious but confused.
That's a tough call. There are quite a few signs that it could be a scam, but his responsiveness to your requests seems like a good sign. Either way, be very cautious, especially if he starts asking for things from you. I was scammed on surge! Cute younger guy chatted for a bit and seemed fine. He gave me the link to get verified and it said it was free but needed a cc to validate me.
So like a dummy I used my only cc I had bank card and the sight charged me I told him what it did and he sent me another link to clear it and get my money back, but that link asked for my cc info again. I told him this and he said I had to put it in again to get my money back and get the free trail. So I did but my card was declined , I freaked out thinking that my account was wipe clean out.
So I checked my account and it was only the I told him this then he ask how much money my card had on it red flag I told him enough lol. I call my bank and closed my debit card and have a new one coming in 3 days.
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I feel I got lucky and that he was planning somehow to clean out my bank account. So I am on the look out now that's for sure. Sorry to hear about that! I'm glad you didn't get scammed for all you're worth. It could have been a lot worse. Thanks for sharing your experience—hopefully it helps someone else avoid the same fate! It's funny, not really but you believe you are getting conned and yet you can't believe that it can actually happen to you.
I met a fellow on a dating site - made a good connection, gave him my phone number, he wanted to send me something so I gave him my home address and I got flowers and chocolates. I was on cloud nine. He didn't want to meet until we talked and knew we had a connection. Made sense, I had never been on a dating site before. He is an engineer and was submitting different bids.
Had one accepted in Turkey - and would be flying out the following week to set up the initial contacts and set up the working plan. Next week for sure. Talk to him by phone and the project in Turkey has problems and he now must pay for repairs to a machine that one of his employees broke. I don't have any. Every time he phones, texts, he asks if I have come up with any solution because we are in this together.
He calls and says he can come home, the Director of the project will allow him to leave so he can get his financial situation straightened out in the US. But he doesn't have the funds to purchase the ticket, could I give him the money? He gets to the airport and can't get on the flight, the machinery company will not allow him to board the plane.
He gets a lawyer and the lawyer discusses with machinery company, if he now buys the machinery they will allow him out of the country. I am suppose to go to the bank for a loan in order for this to proceed. He has no one else that can help him, so he says. I read this and I think, oh come on, are you that blind, so in love with a fictional character on the computer. Yet, I think, he is this great person, that I might be missing out on.
I feel like a fool, in my gut I think I am getting screwed, and in my heart I want this person. So sorry to hear about your experience. You're right, though; even if you're on the lookout for scams, you can still be taken advantage of. They're really good at what they do. I just had a go round with this SAME guy. I reported him to Match. I didn't give in when he asked that I wire money to Turkey and called him out but he continued to try to keep me on the hook. Had a supposed Turkish cell and whatsapp acct.
I demanded he send me verified ID and he kept coming up with reasons why he could not--company in Turkey keeps their passports until the job is done, he left his driver's license at home. He finally sent me a fake CA driver's license with a bunch of mistakes on it and when I called him out on that he finally stopped trying to keep me on the hook.
He popped up on Match. While I'm not totally convinced it's the same guy, it certainly bears a remarkable resemblance! I'm glad you figured it out in time. A pdf of the story is a available here http: I got on our time. I wouldn't worry about getting in trouble; people get scammed all the time, and I don't think that's much of an issue. Also, don't be too hard on yourself; the people who do this are experts, and they know exactly which emotional triggers to use. They're really good at what they do, and you're not the first or last person to be taken advantage of.
About two weeks ago, I f, 33 met a guy on the "Whisper" app. He said his name was Jim, he was 31 years old and lived in Texas. I live in Germany and I am German. He seemed very nice and we connected really well right from the beginning. I texted with him for about five days in a row for several hours every night and enjoyed it very much. He told me that he was a computer network architect who worked from home. When I said that I think that he must be very intelligent because I could never do a job like his, he told me that I was so full of compliments that night.
When I replied that I didn't want to come across as slimy, he told me: You just seem like a girl who might be falling for a guy. To this he answered: Because I'm really falling for you! But then I somehow really believed him One evening when we were in the middle of texting again, he wrote all of a sudden: My mom just called. She thinks my Dad is having a heart attack. I have to go over there immediately. He told me that his Dad had actually had a heart attack and was now in hospital in intensive care and that a bypass surgery was planned for the following day Saturday. The next time I heard from him was Sunday night.
My Dad didn't make it. He didn't even make it to the surgery but passed late Friday night. I completely believed what he told me and I didn't expect him to text me until a few days later. To my surprise, he already texted the following night again, saying that he was having a few minutes alone and that he would be glad if we could talk for a little while. He told me a little bit about the funeral arrangements and other things he and his family were occupied with at the moment.
He was very sweet in what he wrote he said it was so nice talking to me and that I was so sweet etc.
Of course, I believed the things he told me and tried to comfort him. At some piont he said that he should leave before long but didn't want to, so we continued texting further. After about another five minutes he wrote: I wish I could talk all night, but family calls. But he never responded again! He jhas completely disappeared since then. No "Good night" or "Talk to you soon" or anything like that on this night and not a single sign from him since then.
I already had a strange feeling that night when I didn't get a real goodbye from him, since he always used to wish me a good night before leaving. Then again, I thought that he was probabaly too devastated to pay attention to such things in this difficult time. I texted him the following night and asked if he was ok. Of course I didn't expect long text messages from him at that point. I just wanted to know how he was doing. Then, for the following days I texted him again that I was missing him and that I was worried about him and just wanted to know if he was okay. Again no response but also no blocking on his part.
He has just remained completely silent since he wrote me: Today marks the 8th day since I last heard from him and after having sent him another message last night, I have now decided not to write him again and have also deleted our conversation. By doing this I am not able to contact him any longer the only way of getting in contact again would be if he texted me.
But I don't think this will happen I would love to get your opinion on this story. Do you think I have fallen victim to a romantic scam here? Considering the fact that he told me he was falling for me, only not to respond to my messages at all shortly after, but ignoring me completely instead. Or do you think that it might really be the case that the death of a close family member has such an impact on someone that he actually might not be able to communicate by writing just one short sentence in order to let the person he was allegedly falling for know how he is doing?
It's really hard to tell, especially when contact was just broken off. I wish I had better advice for you! How can a person who has never interact with you tell you they love you. Only a month later. Never give anyone money or buy gifts for someone you don't know. If the person can only talk to you for 10 to 15 minutes on the phone everyday. You must interact and be a part of that persons life to build a true relationship. Don't ignore Red Flags! Those red flags are their to protect you.
Plus remember you are not desperate, take your time do a background check and who gives a damn if the person is insulted because you have chosen to check what's behind the door. Your first Love should be you looking out for yourself. I met man from Brisbane Australia. Named Wayne Harrison who claims he works for Qantas Airline. If this man contacts you via any dating site. Women Run and I mean run real fast. He is only interested in having an affair. He is a true Sociopath! Everything he says is a lie all lies all the time. First warning sign which I ignored was when he sent me a Birthday card.
But on the card he put my Address and not his. I completely ignored what was truly a Red Flag. Then I was invited to come and visit Brisbane but only when his wife left on a vacation was I invited. He stated by the way he was in the process of divorcing. I ignored this Red Flag also. If a person is not Divorce and cannot produce legal Divorce papers that you can hold in your hand and check online they filed then run.
Another major Red Flag was him telling me a month later that he loved me. I hope someone can help me, I met someone on a gay dating site, he was the same age as me, and sent me pictures, and I thought wow, someone this handsome really is writing to me, he didn't say he was young or overseas, and said that he lives in New York, and he was an engineer and Architect and would send me pictures of construction sites that he was working at, and said that he had a firm in New York, and he didn't ask for my e-mail address until later when we got to know each other.
Maybe I am being stupid or guidable, I don't know, and I am not that ugly looking, so I am confused, please help. That definitely sounds like a con. I just can't imagine that being real. I'd recommend breaking off contact immediately. I know it's hard, but the risks are awfully high. Scammers are good at what they do, and they rarely "seem like" scammers. Sorry you're going through this! Sorry for all this situation you are going thru. I just received a communication from an wonderful-good looking gay guy from Russia asking me for money, I met him thru a gay site. Is been three weeks only , not enough time for this ,a friend of mine has a similar story , therefore I do have all the warnings.
Needless to say , I didn't believe , so I went thru all the information on the web about gay-scam-fraud ,so after that I decided to call the FBI and report this crook: Yeah, that's almost certainly a scam. I'd cease contact with this person and report him to Cupid! I ventured into the dating scene via Plenty of Fish after my divorce last year, and connected online with a very charming, pleasant-looking man who "lived" in Vancouver. He phoned me often his number was listed as from the Vancouver area and we spent a lot of time on Yahoo Messenger chatting daily. I now know that moving women quickly off the dating site to a messenger site can be a red flag.
As Dan Albright's article stated, this man was not able to meet because he had business in South Africa for several weeks. He called me daily with the South African number, keeping very close contact. I was very mixed in my thoughts. I wanted to believe that this was a burgeoning relationship, but I was also very anxious. And yes, he asked me for emergency money and against my better judgment, I sent him some.
And then he asked for more a few days later; another work-related problem. I asked him questions about these issues and he always had a semi-viable excuse.
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But it became too much and I said I cannot do this anymore. The final straw was his request to send a large sum of money via my bank account. He sent me a "document" from his lawyer in the UK to verify that all was above board and I took it to my friend who is a lawyer. She said it was completely fraudulent law firm's address in London was a pub , multiple spelling mistakes, false signatures, etc.
So with that and other inconsistencies I discovered like his picture on another dating site in Ontario, I confronted him about his scheme and blocked him. It was a difficult lesson, particularly since I was already feeling a bit vulnerable with starting to date again. I am still confounded by this man's incredible skill at bamboozling me who is not normally gullible , and developing the illusion of a warm, caring, supportive bond. I do not believe anything was investigated. POF had his profile still up weeks later, so no doubt he has more poor fish on his hook! Sorry to hear about your difficulties with this!
It all seems to obvious in hindsight, but I'm sure it can be very convincing in the moment. It's certainly not a rare occurrence, so it's clear that it happens to a lot of people. Thanks for sharing your story! I hope you get back to online dating soon and find some success. She had photos that seemed way too professional. In her conversation she mentioned she had changed her hairstyle and that her phone camera was broken. Her webcam was also conveniently broken and she asked me to turn mine on.
After researching the adult model, I found that person's twitter feed and PMed her. She said "Oh, yes. I reported this scammer's facebook profile with all the gathered evidence, reported her dating profile, and her iP ADDRESS is currently banned from facebook and the dating site. I seem to actually be a "target" of these kind of scammers, the first time someone tried this trick with me was with an image of us marine general James Mattis in full uniform that showed his stars and the scammer claimed he was a colonel in the us army Hallo, what about being prepared do research and know the different uniforms and rank distinctions???
Anyway, even in Norway people know who General Mattis is since his comments of "fun to shoot some people and afghans don't have any manhood left anyway". I played along for a while, that was fun, but then blow his scam by asking if he thought his mum enjoyed anal sex and he deleted his facebook profile for just to return to me, now with an image of us army general David Petreus.
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You know, I'm surprised that people choose such high-profile pictures to use for these scams. Even if they're trying to go for the military thing, you'd think they'd just find a no-name solider and use that. Mattis and Petraeus are recognizable around the world, and not just to Americans. Obviously not everyone is very advanced in their scheming.
They are lazy because too often they do not have to do any work to get to peoples money, too many people want to believe them, so they just take the first high resolution images of american officers they can find in a google search, come up with a story about being a widow with a son in a school in London and go for them.
I wonder if Mattis and Pretraeus know their images being used in scams, but that is a different discussion. Yeah, I wonder that too. It seems like something they'd probably know about if it's happening on a regular basis, but they also have a lot of other things to worry about. Email Facebook Whatsapp Pinterest Twitter.